We are free to choose but we are not free from the consequence

Very powerful!  You have free will you can choose how you want to live your life.  The issue is you're not free from the consequences of your choice.

 So many times we do things we want to do and don't ever think of the consequence of our choices until after.  It is a universal paradox. To choose contradicts itself because if you choose you are free but you're not really free if you have a consequence aren't you?

It contradicts itself but nevertheless is true! That's life!  Being free does not necessary make you free of consequences it makes you free from choice. We all have a choice but with every choice there is  a  a consequences so we shall always think before we choose!


This statement is really about accountability. As you get older you are able to make more decisions on your own. This helps you utilize morals and ethics you were taught. Whatever you decide to do you have to live with the outcomes. This means good or bad. One you have made the choice you cannot changes what happens as a result. There is always room after to try another method but the initial consequence will still stand. Try to think what the best outcome/consequence is when making life choices. You may pick the best one and it still may not give you the result you are looking for but it is part of maturity and growth to accept that. As my mother would say: "Welcome to the real world"!

There is no secret routine

Everyone always ask is there a secret behind becoming successful? The answer is no!   You just have to have ambition, be determined, confidence and believe that you can do it.  First step of anything is believing you can and that starts when you believe in yourself. The second thing one must have is the ability to work hard.

You can achieve anything you put your mind to.  That's all it takes.  It starts with a vision, and it becomes a reality if you work hard. If your determined to become successful you will be.  Sometimes we envy others for their success but that individual worked hard for it and so can you.  So don't envy work hard and focus and be confident that you can succeed as well.  Where is a will there is away!

Hard work pays off no secret routine!

Life is  what you make it. I know it sounds cliche but there is no secret recipe for success in life. Everyone has a different upbringing and aspirations but as long as you believe in what your doing and work hard at it all your goals are achievable. The drive within you is what will create your destiny.

We realize our own value

Walking away is not a sign of weakness actually its the opposite. It is a sign of strength and courage.  It's not easy to walk away from something or someone your passionate about, it is also hard to be somewhere or with someone when your not recognized or appreciated.

When you feel your under valued as a person within a relationship, or even in a job.  At first your sad, hurt, frustrated etc.  Right? Yes, then you deal with it, and sometimes make excuses for the individuals. Right?   But , there comes a time when you start slowly realizing your own worth and value that you find the courage within to walk away.  The power is within us. We just have to get to the point when we are done making excuses for others and we no longer have fear of the unknown. Why because we realize we are strong and deserve the best. 


Remember:
You're worth it !

** Walking away is also a sign of maturity. It shows that you have learned to pick and choose your battles. When you have a situation that you realize is not going to be resolved or is not worth the energy it is good to walk away. The other possible outcome if you stick around may cause you lose things that you have worked so hard for. Value yourself over others always.!!

Be good to yourself

You must be good to yourself. Stand up for yourself you deserve to be treated with respect and be cared for.  Your feelings should be acknowledged and respected.  When someone treats you like they do not care about you believe them they do not. You need to walk away or be strong enough to accept that they do not care.

  If they did they would not have acted in such away that makes you feel they do not care.  So learn to be good to yourself and show people that you love yourself enough to let go and be good to yourself. Live and be free. Those who care believe me... you will know because you  can feel it. When someone doesn't care you feel they do not. So value yourself !

Self care is most important. If you are in tune with yourself and listen to your own thoughts and intuitions, you will know when someone does not mean you any good. Take the time out to do things for yourself such as a spa day or meditation. Those activities rejuvenate your spirit. Never seek your happiness from others. Happiness will always come from within!

Don't let people get under your skin

Have you ever wondered why people do things to get under your skin? I use to but now I know why. Some people get joy out of making you react.  They actually are not happy with themselves so they feel they need to make others feel the same way.  Many like to get under your skin to take away the joy you have. Sad, but true!  Some just love drama.  So don't react!

Don't let people get under your skin, no matter how hard they try and trust me they will try.  Ignore, laugh and be at peace with yourself. No reaction and silence is the best way to react. Soon they will get the message that they cannot get under your skin and they will stop.  Have you ever been happy and at peace and no longer with someone and the person knows this and out of no where, they will bring up your ex?   Ones reaction is what? No reaction..do not react!!  Trust me they wanted to see how you would react. So don't simply change the subject because if your at peace and happy of course they will try to get under your skin.  But if they only knew that your ex is your ex for a reason!! LOL

Ask yourself:  What are they doing for you? Probably nothing...so don't let them get under your skin you get under theirs by having no reaction. Walk away and free yourself from negative people who they themselves are not happy and love drama.  The saying is true:  Misery loves company!   Free yourself and be at peace with yourself!


People do things to get under your skin because they are miserable in their own lives and misery always loves company. Don't ever let any body steal your joy. They do not deserve the satisfaction. They would love nothing more than to see you cringe. Do not allow them to reach such a negative goal. Stay in a positive zone and also know when someone is trying to get under your skin. If you have a sense of that you can  handle it better and not get emotionally involved.

Having to say goodbye when you lose someone

The hardest part when someone you love dies is not having to say bye its learning to live without them. Learning to have to accept that they will never tell you again the words we love to hear... I love you or I am proud of you!   Learning to accept that no matter who comes in your life you will always be missing a piece of your heart especially if that person is a father or mother.   You feel empty inside and lost and seem never to really get over the lost of a loved ones, but you keep living because you have to! You know that's what they wanted and you know that you cannot disappoint them. People try to say things to make you feel better and it helps, but you know deep inside your life has changed.  That is what people seem not to understand.  A tragic event like death does change a person!! Especially, if its your mother or father or someone so close to you!!  You remember their birthday, you remember the day they died. Yet they say its been years of their passing you should be better, but when its your parent, your child trust me you do not get over it!  Sometimes people don't get it until they lose someone close to them.  I have to say: each year it does get better but you do not forget them ever and especially on the day or their birthday or the day they died.  The quote is strong and so true and dear to me.

I lost my daddy and I will never have him back! Sad but that's life.  So it's true what the quote states.    Your left empty and your heart is never the same, but the good things is those who are gone never do leave us... we keep them alive with each memory we have and share!  I smile when I think of my daddy especially today. 


Happy birthday daddy...I am thinking of you.  RIP

Your daughter!


I can definitely relate to this as I  lost my Father as well at a very young age. The part that is the most difficult is getting adjusted to life without that person being there. Although it does alter your character, Things will get easier. Time does heal all things. It will not change the void but it will soften it. Try to make the most of life and do what you can to honor that person the best way you can!

You left me no choice! Be Strong and speak up!

Sometimes we have to let go of someone because it is the best thing for us not because we want too. It's not easy it is actually hard.  You can love someone and want them to be part of your life but you also know what you deserve and you deserve better.  So you make a choice to let go and that choice hard but needed to be done!

Wanting and needing are two different things as well.  You really want that person in your life but you do not need them especially if they're not being genuine to you.    A relationship of any kind is not one sided ever.  It natures, it protects, and it loves.  Sometimes when love you have to let go because at the end you are only hurting yourself keeping someone you want knowing they will never change. Change is something someone choose to do and sometimes in relationships you always wonder why someone didn't change but changed for another.  The answer is simple they made the choice at that time because they wanted too!  So be happy you let go and always tell the person just because I let you go, doesn't mean I wanted too ....I had to for me!

Be free and love and always remember you deserve better!   Just because  you let go, does not mean you do not feel!  Feelings are hard to control and you want to stay, but so is being in any relationship thats one sided.  I feel that can kill your self-esteem, and emotionally and mentally drain you!   No one needs that! So let go and be strong enough to say:   I let you go, you left me no other option!

Love is one of the toughest things in life. It can be great, but you also cannot control who you fall in love with. Sometimes that person may not mean you well. To protect your self you may have to remove them from your life. That is not easy. What you  can do is love people from a distance. You can love them but not to the point where it affects you negatively. It doesn't mean you want to be distant but you have to in order to live your own life in a peaceful manner. Always love yourself first. the rest will follow.